逃离美国梦:我的家乡,我的家

多元文化的家庭令人难以立足
The United States , Northern America

Story by Kiri Wihongi-Croxford. Translated by Jie Li
Published on December 30, 2021.

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如果自己的家庭成员来自于不同的文化和国家,可能就很难在这样的家庭中找到归属感。我来自一个多元文化的家庭。我拥有双重国籍,但是我并没有住在自己的国家。我的母亲是英国人,在四个国家都拥有自己的一席之地。我的父亲是新西兰土著毛利人,在三个国家有自己的固定居所。所以,我紧随父母的脚步,在出生地以外的国家安家,这不足为奇。

我来自美国,小时候在新西兰居住了一段时间。我虽然拥有两个国籍,但是我大部分都住在美国。许多美国人都认为美国是世界上最伟大的国家。美国是拥有多种文化信仰的大熔炉,是许多技术和革新产品的发展中心,这些技术与革新引起了翻天覆地的变化。选择居住在美国或者移民到美国有着许多原因,例如,平等、自由、金钱、权力、安全、稳定。这些留在美国的人还想要实现自己的“美国梦”。

所有事情都本该在我的掌控之中,但是有些事情的发展出乎意料。我并不能在这多元的文化中找到一个适合自己的平衡点。

我的父亲母亲曾经和我有一样的经历。父母离开美国之后,我也有了可以离开美国的机会,这一次我毫无顾忌的离开了这里。如果父母还在美国,我可能还会因为父母也留在这里。但是,我没有任何让我留在美国的牵绊了。所以,我决定离开,选择另一个国家。在这个国家,我能付得起学费,每人都能享受医疗服务。我可以在这里学一门新的语言进行自我提升。在这里,个人财富不取决于个人拥有多少资产,而是能在工作和生活之间找到更好的平衡。总之,让我决定离开的原因是我想要有更好的生活质量,拥有国际化视野。

不幸的是,许多国家现如今都经历着政治动荡和战争。居住在这些国家的人们深爱着自己的国家,扎根于自己的国家。遗憾的是,他们不能留在自己的家乡,必须在其他地区寻求庇护。

我想要离开我的出生地并不是一个生死抉择。我非常幸运地能够自己做选择,追随父母的脚步。我确实也找到了自己一直寻觅的东西,并且还得到了更多自己想要的东西。离开自己的国家让我拥有更开阔的视野。我以前的视野严重地受到了美国梦的影响。不论是我学到的思维方式、我的家乡还是我的家都使我憧憬着父母在他们人生中所决定的事,让我决定了走父母的老路。


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Kiri Wihongi-Croxford

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I am born in the USA to immigrant parents. I am now living in the Netherlands and experiencing life from a perspective that many Americans never will. I am also a citizen of two countries, a hairstylist by trade, wife and mother.

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