Indu's sketches for the project


Through her online art and activism, Indu created space for survivors of intimate violence to share their stories and to share with them the ideas that helped her.
India, Southern Asia

Story by Indu Harikumar. Edited by Stephanie Hamel and Charu Thukral
Published on October 10, 2021. Reading time: 4 minutes

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Content Warning: This story contains mentions of intimate partner violence that may be upsetting for some readers.

In 2020, the Association for Progressive Communications[1] supported me through a grant that allowed me to document and study the shrinkage of internet space occupied by women due to gender-based violence in intimate relationships. My project documented the forms of restriction, surveillance and control placed on women by intimate partners, which leads to unequal access to virtual spaces and sometimes to abuse. My project also documented how some of us victims managed to reclaim our space.

The project was proposed as #LoveSexandViolence, but I decided to name it #LoveSexandTech because I felt that many victims and survivors of gender-based violence in intimate relationships may not look at what they go through as violence. When I faced intimate violence myself, I didn't have the vocabulary to label it or make sense of it. I was ridden with shame, torn and heartbroken. I modified the title of my project because a younger me wouldn't have called what I’ve been through ‘violence.’ Calling the abuse ‘violence’ would have meant that the complex relationship I was in was wrong, and that I would have been wrong—for wanting to fix the relationship and for having found love in it.

When I faced intimate violence, I didn't have the vocabulary to make sense of it. 

Reading Meena Kandasamy's piece about her abusive marriage, and later her 2017 novel When I hit you, helped me make some sense of my pain. Her words helped me cope; I felt less alone. So when I started #LoveSexandTech, I hoped to help other women the same way that Meena’s words helped me. It took me years to unpack my experience and to stop blaming myself, and it took this project for me to let go of the remnants of the hurt and shame.

I wanted to have a safe feminist space for survivors to open up and share their stories. I wanted them to have control over their own narratives, to showcase their stories so that the listeners understand they are not alone, and to feel solidarity. Most importantly, I wanted to create a space for respectful and kind dialogue to address issues related to gender-based violence.

When the stories started trickling in, a lot of them described acts of transgression and violence, but not how the victims felt or why they stayed in violent relationships. In some stories, I thought it was necessary to probe the writers, while also telling them to only share what they were comfortable with. This was extremely tricky for me because I didn't know if anything I may be asking would be triggering to the writers. They talked about how they had shut down their experiences—not addressing them at all or downplaying them.

Revisiting their traumas was painful for these women and for myself, but it was also cathartic

I saw this reflected when I organised polls on social media asking women if they had talked about the abuse that they were going through with their friends. Some said that they had shared a watered-down version. Others said that they didn't share because they didn't want their friends to say: "Why do you choose these men?" Another said: “I needed the validation and I didn't want my friends to say—leave him.”

Revisiting their traumas was painful for these women and for myself, but it was also cathartic. While the writers were vulnerable and generous with their experiences, they gave readers a vocabulary—a similar kind of vocabulary that reading Meena Kandasamy's piece gave me. Reading these women’s contributions to #LoveSexandTech made me feel that I’d made a small change by bringing the topic of gender-based violence in intimate relationships to light.

[1] APC is an international network of civil society organisations, founded in 1990, dedicated to empowering and supporting people working for peace, human rights, development and protection of the environment, through the strategic use of information and communication technologies (ICTs).

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Indu Harikumar

Indu Harikumar

Indu is an Indian illustrator, writer, and storyteller. She creates project spaces for conversation and experience-sharing on gender and sexuality through people-powered, art projects on social media. Some of her projects include #100IndianTinderTales #notestomylover  #identitty #lovesexandtech. Follow her on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and Buymeacoffee

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