穿短裙的女孩

想知道一名女性生活在缺乏安全感的国家是什么感受吗?
Morocco, Northern Africa

Story by Hajar Lassiliya. Translated by Lina Bell
Published on April 18, 2020.

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在2019年“妇女宜居国家项目”提供的数据中,摩洛哥排名倒数第一。想知道女性在这里的生活是什么样的吗?

我叫哈扎尔,25岁,女性。我住在摩洛哥的阿加迪尔。在我们集群式的社会生活中,旧父权习俗和伊斯兰的信仰占据着主要地位。女性被视为比男性低等的人。我们的自由很有限:出行、生活,为自己的未来做选择都要依靠男性来完成,这种情况在农村地区尤其严重。我们能做什么,不能做什么,如何生活,是我们的父亲、兄弟甚至是亲戚说了算的。直到最近几十年,女性和男性一起坐在咖啡馆里才逐渐在摩洛哥的几个大城市中得到社会的认同。

2015年,几个穿短裙的女孩在伊奈兹甘被一群暴民袭击了。伊奈兹甘和我住的阿加迪尔接壤,是保守主义盛行的城市。他们认为女性穿短裙是不合适的。然而,在市中心,女性是可以穿短裙的。但在有的地方,穿短裙会让你陷入危险,在这种地方生活的女性为了安全,会把自己的身体遮盖起来。

你可能会鼓励我,勇敢地做出改变,成为自己希望的样子。但是我实在是太害怕了。如果我在街上听到自己的名字,我会低着头悄悄走开。如果我想穿短裙,我会乘车出行,前往游客比较多的地点。我不敢一个人走在街上。现在我已经习惯在街上和别人打招呼了,只要他们不要离我太近就好。摩洛哥女性已经对忍受在公众场合的骚扰习以为常。我们生活在一个别人对你吹口哨很正常的环境里,尽管对于很多人来说这完全是骚扰。

有一件事一直让我耿耿于怀。一个女孩在摩洛哥首都拉巴特的沙滩上被两个男人强奸了。这种事情一般会被遮掩过去,因为人们认为这会让家庭蒙羞。但是这个女孩很勇敢地说了出来。 但是,你知道大多数人如何评价这件事吗:是因为你穿的太少了吗?好像是她的错一样,好像这就能把强奸的暴行正当化一样。男人永远没错,错的只是女性罢了,永远是这样。

大部分情况下,如果没有自己离开,被强奸的女性会被驱逐出家庭,因为她们给家庭带来了耻辱(在摩洛哥,堕胎是违法的)。她的结局是独身一人,还怀着孩子。或许成为妓女是她活下去的唯一选择。她的整个人生都被毁了,而这全部是因为他人的罪过。

对我来说,期待和男人平等是很不现实的一件事,我只想得到尊重。


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Hajar Lassiliya

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My name is Hajar, I am from Agadir, Morocco. I am recently doing my PhD in Corporate Social Responsibility at University Ibn Zohr. Although my life is quite boring, I like to paint, play instruments and travel from time to time and also I try to improve my English.

 

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