Das Mädchen im Rock

Da fragt man sich vielleicht, wie es ist, als eine Frau in einem Land zu leben, in dem es an Sicherheit mangelt?

Eine Geschichte von Hajar Lassiliya. Übersetzt von Veronica Burgstaller
Morocco, Northern Africa
Veröffentlicht am 18. April 2020

Lesedauer: 3 Minuten

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Laut dem „WomanStats Project“ lag Marokko 2019 ganz unten. Da fragt man sich vielleicht, wie es ist, als eine Frau in einem  Land zu leben, in dem es an Sicherheit mangelt?

Mein Name ist Hajar, ich bin eine 25-jährige Frau und lebe in Agadir, Marokko. In der kollektiven Gesellschaft von Marokko vorherrschen alte patriarchalische Traditionen und der islamische Glaube. Frauen stehen in einer niedrigeren Position als Männer. Wir haben eine sehr begrenzte Freiheit; Ausgehen, das Leben erleben und die Zukunft des eigenen Lebens bestimmen, hängt hauptsächlich von Männern ab, insbesondere in ländlichen Gebieten. Es sind die Väter, Brüder und manchmal sogar Verwandten, die bestimmen können, was eine Frau tun oder nicht tun soll und wie wir unser Leben leben müssen. Erst in den letzten Jahrzehnten wurde es gesellschaftlich akzeptabel, Frauen neben Männern in Cafés in großen Städten Marokkos sitzen zu sehen.

Im Jahr 2015 wurden zwei junge Mädchen in Röcken in Inezgane, einer konservativen Stadt neben meiner Stadt Agadir, von einer wütenden Menge angegriffen, da das Tragen von Röcken als unangemessen angesehen wird. In der Innenstadt ist jedoch ein Mädchen in einem kurzen Kleid akzeptabel. Manchmal kann das Tragen von Röcken das Leben einer Frau gefährden. Um sicher zu sein, bedecken Frauen ihren Körper, wenn sie sich in solchen Orten befinden.

Du wirst mich wahrscheinlich bitten, die Veränderung zu sein, die ich in meiner Gesellschaft sehen möchte. Aber ich habe zu viel Angst davor. Wenn ich Namen höre, senke ich den Kopf und gehe weg. Wenn ich einen Rock tragen möchte, gehe ich zu einem touristischen Ort und fahre mit dem Auto. Ich habe Angst, alleine auf der Straße zu gehen. Ich bin es gewohnt, auf der Straße Namen genannt zu werden. Solange sie nicht in meine Nähe kommen, geht es mir gut. Marokkanische Frauen sind es gewohnt, täglich belästigt zu werden, wenn sie in die Öffentlichkeit gehen. Wenn wir ausgepfiffen werden, denken wir nur, dass es normal ist, auch wenn es  eigentlich nicht ist.

Es gibt eine Geschichte, die ich nicht vergessen kann. Es ist die Geschichte eines Mädchens, das am Strand von Rabat, der Hauptstadt Marokkos, von zwei Männern vergewaltigt wurde. Solche Dinge werden normalerweise verschwiegen gehalten, um die Familie nicht zu beschämen, aber dieses Mädchen war mutig genug, sich zu äußern. Aber kannst du erraten, was die meisten Leute sie fragten: Was sie an dem Tag getragen hatte! Als wäre es ihre Schuld gewesen! Als ob dies die Vergewaltigung rechtfertigen könnte! Es ist niemals die Schuld eines Mannes, in Marokko ist es immer die Schuld der Frau, egal was passiert.

In den meisten Fällen werden vergewaltigte Frauen aus dem Haus geworfen, weil sie die Familie beschämen (Abtreibung ist in Marokko illegal). Wenn sie nicht aus freien Stücken davonläuft, findet sie sich allein mit einem Baby wieder. Prostitution ist dann die einzige Option, die sie finden wird. Ein ganzes Leben, das durch die Schuld eines anderen zerstört wurde.

Ich denke,  Gleichberechtigung mit Männern ist noch ein zu hohes Maßstab zu setzen. Ich möchte nur respektiert werden.


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Hajar Lassiliya

Hajar Lassiliya

My name is Hajar, I am from Agadir, Morocco. I am recently doing my PhD in Corporate Social Responsibility at University Ibn Zohr. Although my life is quite boring, I like to paint, play instruments and travel from time to time and also I try to improve my English.

 

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