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My Life as a Woman in India: Goddess of Many Virtues, Except Wealth

Despite strongly standing to society’s demand of being a ‘superwoman’, my mom has hardly received appreciation for her efforts.
India, Southern Asia

Story by Charu Thukral. Edited by Rick Scherpenhuizen
Published on October 27, 2020. Reading time: 4 minutes

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Do you know how an iron nail is given shape? It is hammered and shaped when it’s hot and can be molded in whatever shape and size the ironworker wants. That is how I, along with millions of other kids, were shaped into ideas of gender(s) that define the supremacy of males over females. To change the shape of this nail after years is difficult but possible through persistent hammering.

Women in India are worshipped as goddesses of different virtues. For example, there is Lakshmi for wealth, Saraswati for knowledge, Parvati for kindness, and Kali as the destroyer of evil. However, upon visiting any average Indian home[1] it is evident that a woman is expected to be a master of all virtues except wealth. While the trend is changing, the shift is slow and unhurried. In India, only 26% of the women are part of the labour force and surprisingly the number has declined since 2005 (36.5%)[2].

Irrespective of her employment status, the woman is expected to be the one primarily responsible for household chores such as cooking, cleaning, parenting, and other such ‘thankless’ and unpaid jobs.

I come from a modern middle-class family with conservative thoughts on certain aspects. The idea that women cannot do paid work was not one such thought. Since I was a kid, I have seen my mother helping my father in the business. Even though she held a master’s degree in Hindi and Sanskrit language, she became a student of accounts for my father. While she struggled with numbers and new concepts, she was under family pressure to also manage the household chores. At a point, she was doing both her homework and ours while managing the expectation of a large joint family.

Despite strongly standing to society’s demand of being a ‘superwoman’, my mom has hardly received appreciation for her efforts. Today even after 20 years of running the business and managing the staff, her opinion holds little value in business matters. Her gender still defines and dominates her life, making her get up in the middle of her meal just to serve a glass of water to my father while he is enjoying his lunch at the table. However, it is important to understand that it is not because my father is chauvinistic, but because society has taught both my parents about their roles and ranks.

Does the situation change amongst different income classes? Definitely not. In my opinion, the idea of gender roles being culturally linked makes it socially inevitable. In another story, my cook (who is also my friend) told me about her sister who, unlike her family’s expectations, cannot keep quiet about the unjust treatment from her husband. This woman has been married to her husband for 8 years and earns her own money. However, she is at the mercy of her husband to ‘allow’ her to use this money where she wants.

Sometimes, the husband also resorts to physical abuse to force his will on her. The good change is, this woman never stops arguing and is always ready to fight back for her rights. This is what the need of the hour is.

My mom still holds the rank given to her as a kid based on her gender. This is primarily because she was taught that this is her role as a wife or/and a mother. But women like my cook’s sister are the ones who are driving change by speaking up against the defined ranks. I strongly believe that voicing out the injustice and unfairness is the first step towards change. This story is one such attempt.


[1] The situation might be different for different regions in India. While most of the Northeast and South India gives more liberty and ownership to women the underlying culture and mainstream expectation from women are still there. 

[2] Read more about it in this article: 

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Charu Thukral

Charu Thukral

Namaste from India.

I am Charu, a 29 years ‘not-so-old' woman from the city of Taj, Agra, living in the city of dreams, Mumbai. I have done my higher studies in economics in a beautiful city called Pune. I will not shy away from calling myself a feminist. Apart from my 9-5 (infinity rather) consulting job in the development sector, I love clicking and exploring new places. I strongly believe in living and eating healthy. I am currently training to be a yoga trainer with an aim to broaden the connection between health and spirituality for me and  spread the knowledge to as many as possible.

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